Attitude is built on consistency and discipline, and you must create this in yourself before you can display it to others. Inconsistent behaviors – not following through on commitments, being unreliable – reveal to those around you that you are not trustworthy and don’t care. By learning to keep your promises to yourself, you build confidence and change how you and others perceive you.
Follow Through Matters
Few things are more frustrating than when people make promises and don’t follow through on their commitments. When this happens, it creates questions about trustworthiness and your ability to rely on that person. This can present itself in multiple ways – maybe they are consistently late, say they are coming and don’t show up, say they will bring something and don’t bring it, forget to do what they said they would do – you know this list; it’s always the same story. When people act this way, it leaves others feeling frustrated and unimportant. These inconsistent behaviors create an atmosphere of distrust, damaging all types of relationships.
Look In The Mirror
Have you ever paused to assess if you treat yourself this way? I challenge you to take an evaluative look in the mirror and really assess your relationship with yourself. What is it like? Do you make a to-do list and not follow through with it? Do you tell yourself you will accomplish a goal and never achieve it? If this is true, you have taught yourself to doubt your own word. When you make a promise to yourself, and you don’t do what you said you would do, you signal to yourself that you are not trustworthy and you are a person that does not keep your word.
This may not seem like a big issue, but actually, it is. When you say you are going to build your business, grow your authority and scale your impact, impact the world, crush sales, build a million-dollar business, and you don’t make your best effort to accomplish these goals, you erode your trust in yourself. This matters because your relationship with yourself is the building block for building relationships with other people. You must believe that your word matters and it is worth something.
Commit to a Daily Five
The best way to begin having a consistent attitude is to create a list of five things you must accomplish in a day – I call these the daily five. Before you go to bed or first thing in the morning, write down five items that you must accomplish during the day. I do not recommend writing down more than five items on this list, especially initially, because it can become overwhelming and keep you from experiencing success. These five things have now become a commitment to yourself; you will not end the day until you have accomplished these five things.
Build Confidence In Yourself
Your follow through is paramount; you must commit that you will accomplish the five things you placed on your list for the day. The list is now a commitment you have made to yourself – it is something you said that you are going to do, and you must accomplish it. When you learn to hold yourself accountable for your commitments, over time, the result becomes newfound confidence. Self-accountability actually creates a mindset that you can trust yourself to follow through with your obligations and see yourself as a person who holds yourself accountable for the work you said you would accomplish.
Start keeping your commitments to yourself. By doing this, it builds character, and character builds success. As the Growth Architect, I want to help you learn how to become more motivated, keep commitments, and hold yourself accountable to do what you said you would do. If you want to learn more about building your motivation, watch my video.
Beate Chelette is The Growth Architect & Founder of The Women’s Code, a training company specialized in providing companies an ROI on Balanced Leadership. She has been named one of 50 must-follow women entrepreneurs by the Huffington Post. A first-generation immigrant who found herself $135,000 in debt as a single parent, she bootstrapped her passion for photography into a highly successful global business and eventually sold it to Bill Gates in a multimillion-dollar deal.
Beate works with business leaders and supports organizations by developing and providing training the training, tools, and expertise to create and maintain a balanced, equal, and inclusive work environment that fosters creativity, employee engagement, and corporate growth.
Recent clients include Merck, Women’s Legislative Caucus of California, Cal State University Dominguez Hills, Small Business Development Centers (SBDC), NFTE, CreativeLive, the Association of Corporate Growth, and TracyLocke.
Beate is the author of the #1 International Amazon Bestseller “Happy Woman Happy World – How to Go From Overwhelmed to Awesome” a book that corporate trainer and best-selling author Brian Tracy calls “a handbook for every woman who wants health, success and a fulfilling career.
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