Depression is on the rise, an epidemic in the modern world. It seems that many of us have lost touch with ourselves to the extent that we don’t even know what makes us happy.

One of the big myths of is that depression is about your mental strength. And even when you get a handle on how you manage setbacks it doesn’t mean that you find happiness on the other side of it. Watch my video below to know how to stop struggling emotionally and learn the steps to find happiness.


Uncover Curiousity

If you want to know how to find happiness, spend some time with a child. They have direct, uncomplicated access to their feelings, and can answer instantly when you ask what would make them happy.

Adults usually must go through the steps to find happiness. We have a lot more baggage to let go of.

Another step in learning how to stop struggling emotionally is finding that special individual thing that makes YOU happy. Here are some suggestions. Is it spending time in nature? Hanging out with loved ones? Getting that promotion at work?

No Two People Want The Same

It is different for everyone, so no judgements allowed. Look inside yourself and discover what you want. Then work out how to get it.

Next, train yourself to stay in a positive state of mind. Don’t take on negativity if you can help it. It’s amazing the way your life can change when you befriend yourself. Would you say something like this to a friend: “Wow, you really blew that opportunity. You’re such a failure. You’re never going to get anywhere in life.” Of course not! Don’t say it to yourself, either. Negative selftalk is not helpful and often it’s not even true.

Last, but not least, give up the hunt for perfection. Don’t compare your everyday life to other people’s enhanced social media image. It’s a bit conceited to think that you can match everyone else’s superskills. Everyone has talents as well as areas where they struggle. What are yours?

One of my top tips on how to stop struggling emotionally is to concentrate on decorating your own life. Please stop feeling bad because you don’t think you measure up to others. The steps to find happiness can always be found in the present moment. Stop. Look around you. Breathe. What can you do right now that will lead you to greater happiness? Often a small thing can have big impact. 


Beate Chelette is the Founder of The Women’s Code and serves as the Programming Chair for the National Association of Women Business Owners (NAWBO-LA). Once $135,000 in debt and a single mother, she successfully sold her business to Bill Gates in a multi-million dollar deal.

Beate’s supports Business Owners and organizations who want to reach them two-fold. As The Growth Architect she creates training, outreach and sponsorship programs through customized Entrepreneur skills training following the 5 Star Success Blueprint that shows step-by-step how to grow, build and scale businesses.

In addition Beate provides leadership development programs for organizations that want to implement the ROI of Balanced Leadership through The Women’s Code, her signature system that educates leaders and helps companies achieve gender equality. The Women’s Code creates and implements programs that improve organizational culture, foster productive work environments and help companies improve their people ROI.

Beate is a respected speaker and mentor and is the author of the #1 International Amazon Bestseller “Happy Woman Happy World – How to Go From Overwhelmed to Awesome”, a book that corporate trainer and best-selling author Brian Tracy calls “a handbook for every woman who wants health, success and a fulfilling career.”

If you’d like to book Beate as a speaker on Leadership or Entrepreneurship for your next event please connect here.

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