One of the best moments I experienced within the last few weeks was at the New Year’s Eve party I attended.
For those of you who follow me regularly, you know that I was in a long-term relationship that ended about a year ago. I am currently dating but still unattached. If you are in a similar situation, this site has some tips to help you see the positive side of being single.
Being single is difficult during the holidays and at special occasions like weddings and birthday parties it can feel like I am the ‘only’ single person in the room. Irrespective of whether or not that’s true, my mind has a strange habit of focusing on the happy couples in the room, which makes me feel even more, well, single.
At the New Year’s Eve party, I noticed a very pregnant and very glowing woman seated in a chair and her husband was in the chair next to her. He was perched on the edge of his seat with one hand resting on the back of her chair, his body was turned halfway toward her. I was immediately touched by the sweetness he exuded as he instinctively assumed a body position to nurture, claim this beautiful woman as his, and protect his pregnant wife all at the same time!
I approached the couple and told him how much I appreciated seeing a man who was so attentive and protective. Both of them laughed and told me their story. I learned they had met when she was on vacation in a different state and they have now been together for seven years, married for three. It took them a while to figure out how they could afford to meet more than once a month and how to make a life together – but they did. He told me that in all his previous relationships, he had always looked for the exit sign. In his words, it was “one foot in and one foot out the door.” But, when he met HER all he wanted and all he could think about was for her to “Please love me.”
This little statement, “please love me”, struck me as being very touching and completely sincere. I began to think how so much about love relates to timing. I realize that timing has much to do with anything in life that fails or succeeds, not just with love. A fleeting moment can significantly change a life for the better, or destroy it.
How many times do we wish for a person whom we have just met to be The One? Or the job we are in to fulfill us for eternity? Or for a friendship to last forever? The reality is that things change and people change. We may like someone who doesn’t like us back the same way, or who simply doesn’t want the same things as we do. Or, that person may have deep scars from previous perceived failures that haven’t healed and he or she isn’t ready for us yet.
My personal best example about timing in business is when I worked like a madwoman for 15 years. During that time, I endured a 13-year stretch of adversity that brought me and kept me at my knees. Yet when my timing was right, and because of all the prep-work I had put in, my stars eventually aligned and it all came together for the best. Another example I have to share is about a client of mine who learned that timing and a positive attitude can make all the difference.
What could happen if we make 2014 the year to trust divine timing? No matter what you are facing right now, or which perceived lack you struggle with, trust that divine timing exists and believe that the reason something you are waiting for hasn’t happened yet is because the timing hasn’t been right. Maybe for you it’s that job, the great apartment, a new car, or the promotion you want so badly. Or maybe you’ve been waiting to find the right partner or for your business to finally take off.
It may be the hardest thing in the world, but let’s do our best to believe that if what we have now is not what we imagine for ourselves, something better is coming. Accept our perceived failures of the past as divine intervention preparing us for what we are really supposed to get.