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You’ll probably recognize this conundrum. You may even have been doing it for years. It goes something like this…

You stay in a job, a relationship, the same fitness routine and diet for years and years and eventually realize your habits are no longer serving you. On the business front, your portfolio hasn’t changed much over the past five years and you’re still using the same version of your photo editing software that you started with. Your results (or lack thereof) tell you the old ways don’t work anymore. Yet, you maintain the status quo even though you know you need to make changes to achieve better results. You’d like to change, but you are just not following through!

Here’s an example: One of my creative clients had a fantastic VIP Day experience. We designed a customer profile and an outline for an awesome business strategy, and we came up with three product ideas that she can offer right away to get money flowing into the bank. I was stoked about the day’s results.

But, two days later she sent me an email and told me she had hit a wall. Her internal resistance made a roaring appearance and suddenly what we discussed didn’t feel right anymore. She had retreated into her fear.

I was baffled. How can this talented woman with a great idea not see how obvious her brilliance is to me? I began to wonder…

Why do we avoid making changes and resist stepping into our greatness even when our current ways are obviously not working?

The answer is twofold and fairly simple. First, we can’t see our own blind spots. Second, we prefer to stick with whatever is familiar.

Standstill is comfortable because it is predictable and safe. New paths are uncertain. (Notice that I didn’t say standstill makes us happy.)

When we want to make changes in our lives and our businesses, we arrive at a crossroad. The choice of which way to go can be decided by one critical question: Is the pain of being where I am now greater than the pain of making a change? The decision to change is obvious when staying where we are seems worse than exploring a new direction.

If you are at this crossroad, make the commitment today to change. When fear creeps in, and it inevitably will, slay it like a dragon hunter. Gently coax your mind into believing that the new way will be better and more fulfilling.

When we shift our thoughts from scared to excited and from disaster to adventure, not knowing what the other side will look like isn’t so bad after all. Plus, a firm belief that the future will be better than the present is always helpful.
This process is the same across the board—in your business, your career, and your relationships with your partner, kids, and even with yourself.

In the case of my client, I am glad to report that she has excellent self-awareness and allowed herself to sit with her resistance to change. Once she recognized what was holding her back, she was able to move through her fears. It is full speed ahead for her photography business now.

When we wait too long to make a move and keep complaining about how we’re getting nowhere, the universe tends to agree with us. If we are negative or expect the worst—we get what we expect. So keep in mind that we can design our destinies.

Take control because you are the boss. It’s time to push through your resistance. If you are stuck and feeling the fear—challenge your resistance and do it anyway. I implore you not to wait until you are out of options.

Finally, I leave you with one of my all-time favorite quotes from Maria Shriver: “You don’t need courage if you don’t feel fear.”

I’d love to hear how you conquered your resistance to change, so please leave a comment or send me a message.

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