Breaking Through Doubts and Fear

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May 8, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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Last week you read about my breakdown, when I buckled under self-imposed pressure. I shared with you what it feels like for me when I hit the wall going my signature 180 miles per hour. I contemplated giving up and that is so not like me. In this article I want to share with you what the methods are that I use to pull myself out of a funk and through my dark tunnels. I’ve designed a method that I call K.A.R.L. that is my trusted helper and the one man I rely on no matter what.  Step 1: KNOW Using the first letter of K.A.R.L. we take a step back and give the situation as much of an … [Read more...]

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The New Alpha Female

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February 19, 2013 By
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Her true power comes from unexpected places. By Beate Chelette What would you guess women said they wanted most in 2013? A recent survey suggests we’re seeing the rise of the alpha woman who chooses to be independent and aggressive when it comes to seeking out and getting what she wants. Such good news and among the findings: nearly half the women surveyed said they would prefer to be single and more than 40 percent have no hesitation asking for a raise. The GIY (get it yourself) mentality is gaining momentum, the study found, and more moms are choosing to tackle full-time jobs … [Read more...]

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When Is It Time To End Certain Relationships?

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February 5, 2013 By
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Tips on closing the door and opening others   By Beate Chelette   Most people we get to know in our business and personal lives aren’t meant to travel the whole road with us. We forget that sometimes, especially when there’s been a good connection, yet endings and new beginnings are the natural flow of life.   Every year I ask myself: What does my business and personal life look like? Where am I stuck? What worked and what didn’t and who do I want in my life and who doesn’t fit anymore? For me, I realized I wasn’t getting the support and … [Read more...]

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How To Disconnect From Negativity

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January 29, 2013 By
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Set a time limit for when you will put a stop to negative thoughts and allow yourself to flourish again. By Beate Chelette You will find that I like acronyms and tools. It’s easier to remember something if we can build a bridge in our minds. We are talking about K.A.R.L. which stands for Know, Accept, Relax, Live. In this article I’d like to take a closer look at an often overlooked yet pleasant side effect of acceptance.  As the mother of  19-year-old on the cusp of stepping into womanhood, I witness first hand how the conspiracy theory can throw some unexpected wrenches in … [Read more...]

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How To Find Acceptance And Move Forward In Your Life

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January 22, 2013 By
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Recently, a client of mine called very upset about some bad news. A lucrative new government work project she believed was set to begin had just fallen through.  It wasn’t her fault, the directors in Washington D.C. decided to put the project on hold. Convinced she would not have the cash flow to meet her kids’ tuition, she went into a hole filled with fear and a persistent loop of doomsday thoughts. I know what that’s like. I’ve been there, so for close to an hour, I talked to her about the importance of finding acceptance and disconnecting from her negative, dire thoughts. I’d … [Read more...]

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Do You Take Things Way Too Personally?

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January 15, 2013 By
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We have heard it hundreds of times: Don’t take it personally. It’s just business. Your boss criticizes your performance or a client decides not to renew your contract. Maybe a colleague gossips behind your back or sends an angry email cc’ing your superior. These scenarios are tough to take, and most of us would struggle not to take them personally. We know the mantra of keeping the personal separated from business, and yet, when you think about it, and I know this is true for me, my business is very personal.  I dare say that other passionistas out there love what they do as much as me. … [Read more...]

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Why Setting Boundaries Is So Important

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January 1, 2013 By
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Why Setting Boundaries Is So Important Boundaries let people know that you respect yourself. By Beate Chelette "Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have." --  Anonymous That is so true!  How people treat us is, in the end, our responsibility. Think about the times, at home, socially or at work, when you’ve allowed someone to take advantage of you and you let it pass.  Maybe your partner tends to run late, and you’re often left waiting—and fuming.  Or your boss blows a gasket and yells at you, berating you in the process, and you let it … [Read more...]

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Whatever Happened To Sisterhood?

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December 11, 2012 By
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How to make women your allies, not enemies By Beate Chelette It used to be called sisterhood, the feeling of kinship with other women that fosters support and community. Perhaps you’re fortunate to have a support group of wonderful women, but many women don’t.  Frankly, I don’t see much sisterhood around today, except maybe in the HBO hit series Girls, where the spirit of sisterhood is in and on the air.  http://goo.gl/VpnH8 In business, I’ve seen how badly women treat each other.  Gossip, back-biting and sabotage are rationalized as justifiable means to achieve the … [Read more...]

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Bullies At The Office

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December 4, 2012 By
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Women can be big bullies, too, but only if people accept their behavior. By Beate Chelette The phenomenon of bullying is a big topic in the news these days and it is having a devastating impact on kids at school, as well as women (and men) in the workplace. To me bullying is the zit on the forehead. When we are stressed, don’t take care of ourselves, we can get a zit. We can either treat the zit with a topical solution or address it where it originates. Should we focus on nothing other than an outward sign of something being wrong on the inside? Unless you take in the proper food … [Read more...]

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Can Women Have it All? Here’s What’s Missing In The Debate

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November 28, 2012 By
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By Beate Chelette The recent Atlantic cover story on whether or not women can “have it all” has certainly hit a national nerve. The week after the article came out it had received more than 1.1 million online views.  Women and men all around the country are registering their objection or approval of author, mother of two and former State Department official Anne-Marie Slaughter’s premise that the 70s feminist mantra of “having it all” is, in reality, not so easy—and maybe not even possible unless women push for changes in society. Women who juggle career and family know … [Read more...]

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