At a recent conference, I sat staring at a screen projection showing a breakdown of how Baby Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials work. The speaker explained the different work ethics of each group and what, on average, matters most to them.
To no one’s surprise, we spent the most time talking about Millennials. I can’t help but wonder how an entire generation that largely hasn’t made a contribution to our world yet can have so many demands for what they need to do!
The lecture discussed how companies should design appealing open office spaces and incorporate ping-pong tables, or some other sort of entertainment. Plus, a community space is encouraged where people can just hang out to ensure ideas keep flowing.
What is so bad about wanting a nice place to work, seeking community and connection? Wouldn’t it be great to have an employer who encourages you to give your brain a break and insists on a decent work-life balance? But as the speaker continued to list requirement after requirement I got that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. Have we got it all wrong?
I was stressed (as I usually am when traveling for work) and after leaving the conference, I spent hours in the air flying home. Thankful for no delays, I jumped immediately into three days of intensive one-on-one sessions with clients. On the fourth day I left on an early flight to the Cayman Islands. Here I enjoyed a full day of work with an awesome group of Entrepreneurs who are all dedicated to make this world better in the non-profit sector.
And then it happened. This is the first day in a long, long time where, aside from writing this post, I don’t have to do anything or anywhere to be.
Imagine sitting on the couch with your feet resting on the far arm, looking out over the balcony watching the waves crash on the reef in the distance. This morning while my man learned how to kite surf, I frolicked and snorkeled at the beach, chatting with the only other beachgoer and my biggest concern was—did I apply enough sunscreen?
As I sit here sleepily waiting for the midday heat to pass, I think about you and me. I realize that women often don’t slow down enough to just sit, relax, and think. We are so busy doing what needs to be done that we don’t often consider what we want or need. No time… Is this the one thing you need to change?
Whenever I am asked how I was able to get myself out of $135,000 of debt to become a multi-millionaire, I often say: “I didn’t have the luxury to think about whether I wanted to do this or not. I had no choice but to keep pushing forward. I got up each day and started doing, day after day until it shifted.”
What if we would consciously remind ourselves to do just the opposite? Instead of doing, as our internal autopilot tells us, what if we decided instead to reset the autopilot and do nothing? I could become really good at doing NOTHING!
Here is a fun clip of the Do Nothing event in Seoul Korea that was invented by an artist to remind us to check in with yourself.
How about we start doing this today? If you are open to exploring nothing, please chose five minutes, one hour, or an entire afternoon, and consciously do absolutely nothing. No reading, checking your phone, or writing allowed.
When we check in with ourselves and turn off the autopilot, we give ourselves permission to reset. And we all know that when a connection is reset information seems to flow much, much better.
What are your tricks for resetting yourself?
At her lowest point, Beate Chelette was $135,000 in debt, a single mother, and forced to leave her home. Only 18 months later, she sold her image licensing business to Bill Gates in a multimillion dollar deal. Chelette is a nationally known ‘gender decoder’ who has appeared in over 60 radio shows, respected speaker, career coach, consummate creative entrepreneur, and author of Happy Woman Happy World. Beate is also the founder of The Women’s Code, a unique guide to women leadership and personal and career success that offers a new code of conduct for today’s business, private, and digital worlds. Determined to build a community of women supporting each other, she took her life-changing formula documented it all in a book Brian Tracy calls “an amazing handbook for every woman who wants health, happiness, love and success!”
Through her corporate initiative “Why Acting Like a Girl Is Good For Business” she helps companies with gender diversification training, and to develop and retain women.
If you’d like to book Beate as a speaker on New Leadership Balance or Creative Entrepreneurship for your next event please connect with me.