Acceptance for me personally means almost the opposite of “refusal,” its antonym. In my darkest moments I refused to accept what I could not imagine my reality to be. That was all I had the strength to do. Over time, I’ve learned that it’s easier accepting what is when I know that I can do something about it, either by having gained strength or knowledge. I call that my conditional acceptance, or gradual acceptance.
The point is, that to get to acceptance you have to figure out what “acceptance” means in your own reality. Accepting means you understand that your life, your current situation – good or bad – is simply what it is. It has changed before and it will change again, many times for the better, and sometimes for the worse. Even if things are bad now, they will be better again!
That does not mean that we go from one day to another viewing life as a burden that was handed to us, and that we must carry this burden regardless of the difficulties it presents. You have the power to create the life you want to live. You already made a commitment and an investment in yourself of improving your life by reading my posts. Congratulations on taking the initiative!
You have influence over a good portion of your life. All your internal circumstances are within your own control, and over time you realize that you have a large influence over the external ones as well.
You can choose whom you are with, but not who they become. You can choose your friends but not your parents. (If you believe in reincarnation, though, you may have encountered the idea that our souls and spirits choose our parents before being born. Admittedly, it is a hard concept to work with, especially when your parents are not perfect.) You are in charge of becoming the person you ultimately want to be. This is your ultimate power. You can choose how you act, or react, toward what you have created in your life.
Are there areas in your life where you’ve made a choice to change? Has there been something that led you to decide not to accept the status quo, but to take charge? Let me know – I’d love to hear from you, and we can share this journey together.
Photo provided by Michael Albany Photography