Today I read an article about a judge in Canada who asked a rape victim (after referring to her as “the accuser” multiple times) why she couldn’t just keep her knees together. I then read an article where Donald Trump declared that a flat-chested woman can never be a 10. I stopped reading after that. I couldn’t take anymore!
Wherever we turn there is another middle-aged angry white man who is desperately trying to keep the world in order. By that, I mean the order that once existed where he was the sole ruler at home and at work. How can we disarm these angry men without constant conflict?
In defense of men, I will say that I have met many men during my speaking and training engagements about gender equality and balanced leadership who are not angry. They are often fathers of daughters and they understand equality is not scary. They agree it’s about time we did something to improve things for women. These brave trailblazers are not the least bit worried about what will happen to them and their status because they understand our society is in the midst of a very big shift. A power shift.
Women are 51% of the American population. We are the majority experiencing an unstoppable rise. I know this because whenever the issue of inequality comes up with Millennials in the room, they look flabbergasted. “This issue still exists?” *face palm*
Fortunately (or unfortunately), many of them have not been in the workforce long enough to hit that wall. I’m talking about the gender wall that starts to emerge as you rise through the ranks. While men and women start in relatively equal numbers at entry level positions, at Senior or CEO positions women’s percentages shrink to 13% and 1% respectively.
Some men are quite vocal about our growing influence and demands. I am sure these are the “deplorables” among them who seem to get louder and louder. The world order must be brought back to where man is in charge! Whether you want to believe it or not, this is one of the major reasons there is so much hostility toward Hillary Clinton. They look only for her flaws. And when they come up short, they make stuff up.
Social experiments have proven that when misinformation is repeated enough times, people start to believe it regardless of the facts. It exists because I say so. The Emperor isn’t wearing anything at all!
I personally find it interesting to watch the volatility and anger surrounding the power shift that middle-aged angry white men are losing. Why are they so angry? Why do they resort to name calling and so much aggression?
The answer is surprisingly simple: anger comes from fear. There are only two ruling emotions we experience—love or fear. If it’s not coming from love, then it comes from fear. And while between those emotions lies a gamut of variations, like anger, disappointment, or hatred, the underlying emotion is fear.
The middle-aged angry white man is afraid of losing ground and having to give up his superior position in society. He will go to great lengths to ensure that does not happen in his lifetime. His anger and hostility is based in a fear of change.
It’s not just men. Some women also want to stop the rest of us from being equals. Like the woman who went on a Facebook rampage on my public page, going so far as to call me sexist because I have issues with women not supporting other women. Name calling and seething anger—for what? The world is changing and cannot be stopped. Thankfully.
This current election will be decided by minorities and the next election will be the decided by Millennials. The gender war being fought today is the next step of our evolution. The keywords of this era are diversity, inclusion, and equality.
And if you really, really pay attention to the data and research around these topics you will find those three keywords are vital for innovation, intelligence, and growth. Not surprisingly, diverse and inclusive teams show up to 60% better results.
Now that should make even the angriest of angry men happy. Or so you’d hope.
At her lowest point, Beate Chelette was $135,000 in debt, a single mother, and forced to leave her home. Only 18 months later, she sold her image licensing business to Bill Gates in a multimillion dollar deal. Chelette is a nationally known ‘gender decoder’ who has appeared in over 60 radio shows, respected speaker, career coach, consummate creative entrepreneur, and author of Happy Woman Happy World. Beate is also the founder of The Women’s Code, a unique guide to women leadership and personal and career success that offers a new code of conduct for today’s business, private, and digital worlds. Determined to build a community of women supporting each other, she took her life-changing formula documented it all in a book Brian Tracy calls “an amazing handbook for every woman who wants health, happiness, love and success!”
Through her corporate initiative “Why Acting Like a Girl Is Good For Business” she helps companies with gender diversification training, and to develop and retain women.
If you’d like to book Beate as a speaker on New Leadership Balance or Creative Entrepreneurship for your next event please connect with me.