Cranky. Yup, that’s one word to sum it up. We are cranky because we are so busy. Our lives are so out of balance that it feels we are “on” 24/7. No time to think, no time for silly fun stuff, no down time at all. Wouldn’t it be nice to find time to do a few things for yourself? But when you do, you feel guilty.
Longingly, you think back to when you had time to be silly without a worry in the world. Adulting is getting to you. All there is now are responsibilities and bills. That’s it. That must be why we are here—to pay our bills and make it through another month somehow.
Really? Let’s think about that for a moment.
Why are we acting as though we have no options? Nobody forced us to take this job, marry this man, or divorce that woman. We made these choices ourselves. And now facing the reality of our choices we act as if we’re at a dead end.
May I remind you of instances in your past when you thought you wouldn’t make it through, and yet you did? And when you came out on the other side, you realized all the tribulations were necessary to shed that old skin because it was holding you back. Why do we forget about those happy outcomes to seemingly impossible situations?
Sure, we need growth experiences to, well… grow. But let’s stop adulting for a moment and see what FUN we can add back in our lives.
What is fun for you?
Remember that scene in Runaway Bride when Richard Gere tells Julia Roberts she doesn’t even know which way she likes her eggs? She cooked egg after egg in all types of ways until she knew her preference. If it’s not easy for you to identify what is fun, maybe you simply haven’t tried enough things to know if you enjoy them or not.
I ask the same question of my private executive coaching clients. If they don’t know what fun is for them, I encourage taking up a 30-day challenge of doing something they have never done before. It could be cooking a new dish, going to a new restaurant, taking a painting class, attempting a new sport, hiking a different trail, or going on a weekend getaway to somewhere different this time . The possibilities are endless.
You see, we can’t figure out the fun part unless we try enough new things and then take a moment to reflect on how much we liked them. I practiced this just last week while checking in with myself.
One of my clients realized how much she hated grocery shopping. Now she and her partner plan their weekly meals better and use a grocery delivery service. With time freed up on the weekends, they can focus on cooking up a storm on Sundays to have a few fast and healthy meal options on hand to last throughout the week. Sometimes fun is getting rid of something decidedly un-fun.
Another client, a VP at a major medical device company, realized she had no time to have fun with her kids anymore. With that in mind, she started to let her hair down a bit and is staging nightly scenes around the house with stuffed animals for her kids to find in the mornings. As they relish in great detail the crazy adventures their toys had overnight, there is much, much more laughter and fun in her home.
We get so drawn into adulting that we forget how to have fun. That’s when we need to get ourselves back into fun exploration mode. It doesn’t take much time at all. It only takes discipline to remind ourselves of what really matters.
At her lowest point, Beate Chelette was $135,000 in debt, a single mother, and forced to leave her home. Only 18 months later, she sold her image licensing business to Bill Gates in a multimillion dollar deal. Chelette is a nationally known ‘gender decoder’ who has appeared in over 60 radio shows, respected speaker, career coach, consummate creative entrepreneur, and author of Happy Woman Happy World. Beate is also the founder of The Women’s Code, a unique guide to women leadership and personal and career success that offers a new code of conduct for today’s business, private, and digital worlds. Determined to build a community of women supporting each other, she took her life-changing formula documented it all in a book Brian Tracy calls “an amazing handbook for every woman who wants health, happiness, love and success!”
Through her corporate initiative “Why Acting Like a Girl Is Good For Business” she helps companies with gender diversification training, and to develop and retain women.
If you’d like to book Beate as a speaker on New Leadership Balance or Creative Entrepreneurship for your next event please connect with me.