My personal ego-RHYTHM™ is three years, and I arrived at this number based on the following events: I recognized while raising my daughter that my life changed dramatically every three years.
On average, I keep my cars six years (2×3). It took me three years to build the stock syndication business and sell it. I dealt with irritable bowel syndrome for almost four years before I started to take care of it. My first marriage lasted three years. My previous relationship lasted somewhere between three and four years.
So I’ve found that major changes and a new direction or theme come, for me, every three to four years. The three comes around more prominently; hence I stick with the three for convenience. This is the number I make my plans with. When I sold my business, I granted myself a three-year transitional period in which I did not plan to make any major moves or decisions. Three years is my own personal ego-RHYTHM™ duration, give or take a few months.
Not to worry, once you complete the exercises that will follow this post, your own ego-RHYTHM™ duration should become pretty clear to you and you will see a pattern emerge.
But, here’s something interesting to think about. What if you find that your life has essentially remained unchanged over the last decade? Is it possible that your personal ego-RHYTHMs™ last that long?
In a word – no. The few times I’ve come across an obvious lack of rhythm is when a person is stuck in her daily routine and has essentially succumbed to life just being that way. There is nothing wrong with this mindset if you like it and it makes you happy. If, however, you want more from life than the same-old, same-old, but you are paralyzed by the thought of change, now is the time to do something about it.
Go to seminars and listen to motivational speakers whenever you can, or take a workshop. Visit the websites of today’s luminaries and listen to their speeches. There’s a lot of free stuff out there to help you start breaking through your limitations and begin living the life you want and deserve. Everyone has a rhythm, and you just need to get back to the courageous YOU that you used to be.
To move forward, you’re going to have to make changes. Sometimes it’s easiest to begin by changing only one thing today. Whether you consider your next move an invitation to change or a forceful push when you’re not moving ahead naturally is not what’s important right now.
If your ego-RHYTHMs™ are not moving from one into the next as they do for most people or you want them to move along at a better pace, your engine is stalled, and forcing a change might be the best option for you.
Are you in a place where you feel you need to change? Tell me what it is in your life that you’d like to change now – your path is important to me. We want to help each other on this journey. Thank you for sharing!