It’s helpful to set a time limit for when you will put a stop to negative thoughts and allow yourself to feel better again.
I’ve noticed that I pick fights and get grumpy and whiny when I get PMS. I’ve learned to accept that this is a reoccurring phenomenon and so I make an effort to remind myself that my body image will be better in a few days. Remember that what happens in your life is part of a phase or rhythm, and leave it at that. If a specific issue is driving you crazy, how about setting a time limit to stop fussing about it by, say, tomorrow morning at 7 a.m.? Then, let it go.
Setting time limits for your negative thoughts might be hard for you. It’s entirely possible that you can’t believe that your situation will improve within the time frame you’ve set. One reason for this might be that you know you’re not being realistic with your time frame. You’ll know instinctively what is realistic and what is unachievable.
Once you give yourself the time you need to succeed in achieving your own set of benchmarks, you’ll find that making it happen feels pretty good. If you’re still having trouble, then you’ll need to double up on your efforts to accept the things that are fabulous about you, things that people around you compliment you on.
Still having a hard time overcoming those negative thoughts? You can do what I did and refuse to think that this is all there is. This works exceptionally well for stubborn people such as myself. Thoughts such as, “is that all there is?” and “there has to be something better” are pretty powerful as well. Eventually the universe will agree with you and give you something better.
I’d love to know if you’ve managed to put aside negative thoughts – have you instinctively done what I’ve just described, and given yourself a time limit? Or are there areas of your life where you still dwell on the dark side? This is important to realize – and I’d love to work these through with you. Share your experience with me, and let’s do this together.