Comments for Beate Chelette » http://beatechelette.com The Women's Code Mon, 23 Jan 2012 17:06:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Is Your Life in Balance? by Custom Facebook Pages | WordPress Theme With Facebook Integration | Facebook Pages App http://beatechelette.com/balancetest#comment-63 Custom Facebook Pages | WordPress Theme With Facebook Integration | Facebook Pages App Mon, 23 Jan 2012 17:06:12 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?page_id=2622#comment-63 [...] and interactive test for you to see if your life is in balance. If you have a couple of minutes, take the test, my results surprised [...] [...] and interactive test for you to see if your life is in balance. If you have a couple of minutes, take the test, my results surprised [...]

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by admin http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-46 admin Wed, 21 Dec 2011 00:20:37 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-46 Thank you for your great comments. It made me feel better to know that I am not the only one finding it difficult to reconcile between strength and feelings. Thank you for your great comments. It made me feel better to know that I am not the only one finding it difficult to reconcile between strength and feelings.

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by Helen http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-45 Helen Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:09:07 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-45 (sorry, mixing my "i's" with "you's" a lot, you're getting my stream of consciousness) :) (sorry, mixing my "i's" with "you's" a lot, you're getting my stream of consciousness) :)

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by Helen http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-44 Helen Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:08:31 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-44 Oh and when I keep giving and giving, and getting nothing in return, eventually I do get to my limit where I just turn around and walk away. But always knowing that you did your best, you know, with a clean conscience. Oh and when I keep giving and giving, and getting nothing in return, eventually I do get to my limit where I just turn around and walk away. But always knowing that you did your best, you know, with a clean conscience.

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by Helen http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-43 Helen Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:07:50 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-43 Hi Beate, sorry to hear about all the difficulties you're going through but I think that's how we grow. And you're never given more than you can take on. I can relate in that I'm typically the strong one, and when everyone around me falls apart, no matter what it is I'm going through, I'm the shoulder everyone cries on (metaphorically and literally). To answer your question, I haven't decided yet, whether to prioritize the "me" or accept it as my "fate" or whatever it may be. Wishing you the best, hope you find the energy and support resources to help you cope in the meantime. - Helen Hi Beate,
sorry to hear about all the difficulties you're going through but I think that's how we grow. And you're never given more than you can take on.

I can relate in that I'm typically the strong one, and when everyone around me falls apart, no matter what it is I'm going through, I'm the shoulder everyone cries on (metaphorically and literally). To answer your question, I haven't decided yet, whether to prioritize the "me" or accept it as my "fate" or whatever it may be.

Wishing you the best, hope you find the energy and support resources to help you cope in the meantime.

- Helen

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by Heidi http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-42 Heidi Sun, 18 Dec 2011 16:26:46 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-42 Oh Beate, You made me cry before I've even had my morning coffee! Logically we know that there are some things we can't control (like the health and eventual passing of our friends and family), but somehow in our hearts we still expect to have some kind of power over them, some hope that a miracle cure will swoop down and select our family to rescue. The moment that you witness the failure of that miracle to appear is such a lonely moment. and, for me anyway, really the only time in my life that I couldn't find the bright side and see some way that I could make things better for the person lost. It's sort of shocking to the core. Well, I can't express as well as you have anyway, but you have many people who care and are wishing you the best in this difficult time. Oh Beate,
You made me cry before I've even had my morning coffee! Logically we know that there are some things we can't control (like the health and eventual passing of our friends and family), but somehow in our hearts we still expect to have some kind of power over them, some hope that a miracle cure will swoop down and select our family to rescue. The moment that you witness the failure of that miracle to appear is such a lonely moment. and, for me anyway, really the only time in my life that I couldn't find the bright side and see some way that I could make things better for the person lost. It's sort of shocking to the core. Well, I can't express as well as you have anyway, but you have many people who care and are wishing you the best in this difficult time.

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by Dorit Thies http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-41 Dorit Thies Sat, 17 Dec 2011 17:58:59 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-41 Beate, I have admired your involvement with Melissa ever since I heard that you were supporting her on many levels. I am sorry to hear what happened and I am sure that she is not prepared to be without her mother. Certain things in live you just can't prepare for, especially when it comes to the emotional pain of loss that crawls in. I see your point of trying to be strong in front of her but it also feels good to cry and to let go of the pain that is bottling up inside for a while. Melissa sees you as a very strong woman that she knows she can count on but it is important that she sees that even though you are so " perfect" or "in control" it is good that she sees your pain as well and it might help her to wash out a little bit of the pain for that moment. I am saying this as being a German woman, who was raised by 2 German parents that never cried in front of me and always want me to be strong. That really gets in the way sometimes of being real human and to show that we are sensitive. What is wrong with that? If we don't live that part out in us we are only 95 % real.It get's us through the journey we are in. I can only speak from my own experience. I still have my parents but I have lost people in my life that were very close to my heart. You are a hero and an amazing example for what we all need to do from time to time and I am inspired. I wish Melissa and her family strengths to go through this difficult time. Let me know if I can help. - Dorit Beate, I have admired your involvement with Melissa ever since I heard that you were supporting her on many levels. I am sorry to hear what happened and I am sure that she is not prepared to be without her mother. Certain things in live you just can't prepare for, especially when it comes to the emotional pain of loss that crawls in. I see your point of trying to be strong in front of her but it also feels good to cry and to let go of the pain that is bottling up inside for a while. Melissa sees you as a very strong woman that she knows she can count on but it is important that she sees that even though you are so " perfect" or "in control" it is good that she sees your pain as well and it might help her to wash out a little bit of the pain for that moment. I am saying this as being a German woman, who was raised by 2 German parents that never cried in front of me and always want me to be strong. That really gets in the way sometimes of being real human and to show that we are sensitive. What is wrong with that? If we don't live that part out in us we are only 95 % real.It get's us through the journey we are in. I can only speak from my own experience. I still have my parents but I have lost people in my life that were very close to my heart.
You are a hero and an amazing example for what we all need to do from time to time and I am inspired. I wish Melissa and her family strengths to go through this difficult time. Let me know if I can help.
- Dorit

]]> Comment on Of Friends Passing and Lasting Friendship by Joan http://beatechelette.com/of-friends-passing-and-lasting-friendship#comment-40 Joan Sat, 17 Dec 2011 17:13:45 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2470#comment-40 Dear Beate, I am compelled by what you are sharing, your honesty, it sounds like you are struggling with accepting that your friend had to go, which is understandable, and like you are spritually and emotionally shaken and exhausted. You need to grieve too, to allow all the emotions that are part of that process. You mention how you struggled to keep your poise during lunch with young Melissa. You probably feel that you have to be strong for her, but maybe the honesty of you expressing your sadness for her mom having to go, that you miss her, and that you are sorry that Melissa has to experience this loss will help her too - simply because that is how you truly feel... I know from my own loss that when people around me wasn't afraid to talk openly about it, it helped me tremendously, because I could then express my feelings too, which I needed to and it helped me to heal. I feel that one can still be strong and supportive, while gently and wisely being open about ones own grief. I know you are normally a very powerful and inspring person to all your clients and contacts, but maybe just now for a litlle while you could give in to your human-ness, allow yourself to not be in top-form, come to an acceptance of that it didn't turn out like you hoped and regain your faith and trust in Universal Intelligence. Melissas mother could pass in peace knowing her daughter is in good hands with you. There are many children who still have both their parents but live in pain from lack of love or worse... Melissa will always carry the love of her mother in her heart, that will always be with her. I hope you can use some of this - maybe just one sentense hit your heart strings and tugged your spirit somehow. I am nobody in particular, I just felt compelled to write this to you. Melissa is going to be ok - she has got you! I send you all love and light Joan Dear Beate,
I am compelled by what you are sharing, your honesty, it sounds like you are struggling with accepting that your friend had to go, which is understandable, and like you are spritually and emotionally shaken and exhausted. You need to grieve too, to allow all the emotions that are part of that process. You mention how you struggled to keep your poise during lunch with young Melissa. You probably feel that you have to be strong for her, but maybe the honesty of you expressing your sadness for her mom having to go, that you miss her, and that you are sorry that Melissa has to experience this loss will help her too - simply because that is how you truly feel... I know from my own loss that when people around me wasn't afraid to talk openly about it, it helped me tremendously, because I could then express my feelings too, which I needed to and it helped me to heal. I feel that one can still be strong and supportive, while gently and wisely being open about ones own grief. I know you are normally a very powerful and inspring person to all your clients and contacts, but maybe just now for a litlle while you could give in to your human-ness, allow yourself to not be in top-form, come to an acceptance of that it didn't turn out like you hoped and regain your faith and trust in Universal Intelligence. Melissas mother could pass in peace knowing her daughter is in good hands with you. There are many children who still have both their parents but live in pain from lack of love or worse...
Melissa will always carry the love of her mother in her heart, that will always be with her.
I hope you can use some of this - maybe just one sentense hit your heart strings and tugged your spirit somehow. I am nobody in particular, I just felt compelled to write this to you.
Melissa is going to be ok - she has got you!
I send you all love and light
Joan

]]> Comment on How to find the right words when someone is dying by Landry http://beatechelette.com/what-are-the-right-words-to-say#comment-33 Landry Wed, 02 Nov 2011 21:56:19 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2250#comment-33 Beate, My sister died at 37 years old with four little girls. For a year before she passed she was incredibly ill, fighting for her life. Her goal was to live to see her oldest daughter graduate high school...she died when my niece was 11. During that time I fought to get her into experimental studies and thought I could will her to live. It is horrible to watch some one you love suffer and not be able to relieve that suffering. There simply are no words for that. There is no real understanding of that place they are in. All you can really do, is say I love you and what can I do.... At the end, I told her she had fought hard...that she was still beautiful...that our loved ones were waiting for her, and would hold her there until next we met. i wanted her to be at peace and to pass knowing she was loved, and that it was ok to move on.... She was supposed to be in a coma, but opened her eyes and locked onto mine and a tear ran down her face. You are an amazing woman and your strength will give them strength. Beate,
My sister died at 37 years old with four little girls. For a year before she passed she was incredibly ill, fighting for her life. Her goal was to live to see her oldest daughter graduate high school...she died when my niece was 11. During that time I fought to get her into experimental studies and thought I could will her to live. It is horrible to watch some one you love suffer and not be able to relieve that suffering. There simply are no words for that. There is no real understanding of that place they are in. All you can really do, is say I love you and what can I do.... At the end, I told her she had fought hard...that she was still beautiful...that our loved ones were waiting for her, and would hold her there until next we met. i wanted her to be at peace and to pass knowing she was loved, and that it was ok to move on.... She was supposed to be in a coma, but opened her eyes and locked onto mine and a tear ran down her face.
You are an amazing woman and your strength will give them strength.

]]> Comment on How to find the right words when someone is dying by Devonne http://beatechelette.com/what-are-the-right-words-to-say#comment-32 Devonne Wed, 02 Nov 2011 16:31:13 +0000 http://beatechelette.com/?p=2250#comment-32 Sometimes words are not necessary....I took care of my mother for the past year with many trips to the hospital until they told us they would put her under Hospice care at her home and give the necessary medications to keep her comfortable. We only talked briefly when she found she had terminal cancer, she told me that she had a great life. I bathed her, feed her, gave her the medications and gave her a kiss good night every day for the last year. She could see by my actions that I loved her very much and was with her when the Lord took her peacefully on October 18th, 2011. Sometimes words are not necessary....I took care of my mother for the past year with many trips to the hospital until they told us they would put her under Hospice care at her home and give the necessary medications to keep her comfortable. We only talked briefly when she found she had terminal cancer, she told me that she had a great life. I bathed her, feed her, gave her the medications and gave her a kiss good night every day for the last year. She could see by my actions that I loved her very much and was with her when the Lord took her peacefully on October 18th, 2011.

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